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21. Selecting an agency: choose an agency that is recommended by many sources, and ask about it in the e-group you joined. If the agency is bad, people will tell you. If no one knows this agency, you will be better off staying away from them. Please remember that there are many small local agencies in Russia (with no Russian scams) with the same or similar names; so always include particulars (website address, owner’s name etc) when ask questions about agencies. As a rule, a good agency will be able to accept payments by credit card, provide references, and have their business address and phone number listed on the website.
22. How the agencies work: some agencies sell addresses of the women, some require membership, others combine the two options. An average price per address is about $10. Membership options vary from site to site. When selecting a membership option, divide the membership fee on the number of women that are members of the site, and multiply the number by the months of access, then compare the figures.
23. Most specialized Russian dating agencies will provide you with a facility to search their databases by age, many will also offer more sophisticated search (search by height and weight, education, marital status, presence of children, knowledge of foreign languages, requirements to a partner etc).
24. Decide what type of woman you are looking for: age, appearance, education, kids, personal traits and interests, etc. Write it down. Read about scam Russian girls.
25. Decide what type of woman you are NOT looking for (negative list); write it down.
26. When looking through the profiles, check all the points, both positive and negative. Do not give into temptation of writing to somebody who is not what you are looking for: remember, you are going to live with this person for the rest of your life, and beauty is only skin-deep.
27. If you live in a small town, stay away from girls from capitals (Moscow, St. Petersburg, Kiev, Odessa, Minsk): women from those cities will struggle to adapt to a life in a small town.
28. Writing your first letter: it is acceptable to send the same letter to all women, but you will have much better results if the letter is custom-made to fit a particular woman’s profile. You need to write at least 1-2 pages about yourself, you life, what you like and dislike, the place you live, your work, your education, have you been married previously and, if not, why (tip: because you were first busy with your studies/career, and when you have established yourself, you could not find the right woman - most were already married). Do NOT tell in length about your divorce or its reasons, and do not complain about western women and what you dislike about them. Do tell her why you decided to look for a wife in Russia and why you selected her ad. If there are some important things on your checklists that are not reflected in her profile, ask her about them.
29. Do not talk about any sexual subjects or the ones that can be interpreted as such. Talking about sex in early stages of the correspondence with Russian women is a definite turn-off. You will be able to discuss it later in an indirect way (asking her opinion about an article, a movie, etc). In general, Russian women enjoy sex but they find it inappropriate to talk about it with people they hardly know.
30. If you are going to visit the lady’s country soon, or if you are ready to visit her country as soon as you find the woman you are looking for, tell her about it.
